My Dad is still my Safety, my Strength!
Calling a Father a Super Hero is not just trendy in social media or a fancy thing for little kids. A Dad’s Hands are something which only a child can feel. And I am no different, I just Love and Love my Dad, I call him “Pita”. And this I can realize more and more with each passing day, each passing year. I am in my thirties now, happily married with a little Son; but I still look up-to my Pita for strength, for his assurance, for the ultimate comfort of my mind.
Today is almost a month of lock-down in my country India and most parts of the world are in lock-down too, because of the deadly COVID-19. Everyone is trying to be positive in one way or the other in hope for a virus free better world soon. And every day we are passing in prayers, getting tensed with the news and then just getting ourselves busy with “work from home” or household chores or with kids.
I am away from my parents now, my Ma and Pita; in Bengaluru with my own little family since we work and earn our livelihood here, and they are in their hometown, Jorhat. Everyday we talk over phone trying to be normal amidst tension and fear because of the current crisis, trying to give strength to each other. Well I have to admit, I am a very serious person and very easily can empathy with others, hence I get shattered more when see tragic news of death, ill treatment to any being, hunger and plight of people. I am a mother, a wife, so though I become weak from within at times, I cannot actually show that this is happening to me as I need to be the strength to my family, my aged parents away from me. Well let me tell you that these days I am developing a tendency to turn every negative word I come across into positive by adding my positive vibe to it with my wisdom, and it actually helps the purpose, but from within I panic. And today I happened to look to my husband and thought, he is there for me, giving me all positives, hopes, but still I am not feeling that comfort. And then I saw that though I may not feel, my son is actually feeling that comfort and assurance with his Dad, why not? for my Son, his Dad is his Super Hero. But for me, my Husband is also mutually dependent on me for strength, for hope and for a lot more things that a life partner is dependent on each other. So when I decided and shared my true feelings with my Dad, my Pita today, something magical happened and I found that assurance back, that safety and comfort that I find in his arms. I also had a guilt from within like “Am I making him tensed with my feelings?”. But then I thought, “Ah! my Dad is my Super Hero after all, he will manage”. And I think God actually gives that strength needed to each role in His creations to comfort and support the other as needed. A Father can be the utmost strength to his child, specially to his daughter, how old he may be. And in fact he feels more powerful if he can still be the strength to his daughter or son however old his child may have become.
I can actually remember and feel how much I am a part of my father, how much I am what I am today because of him. Can I ever forget his teachings as my guide, my mentor in every step? I am able to express today because my Pita taught me to express, I am able to speak so easily to any audience, a crowd, a superior or a junior, because my Pita gave me the courage, I am an educated lady today managing my own life, supporting my family because my Dad made me so. I know to manage my expenses, I am an expert in shopping whether from grocery to any essentials because my Dad taught me directly or I learnt seeing him when I grew with him. I can organize any event in a fine way, delegate work and get work done, because I saw my Dad managing so much, at home or at his work, because of which he has always been applauded of. And it feels so so! great when someone says to me that “you are just expert like your Dad,” which I have heard from many by now. Whenever I get praised or applauded for any work done from anyone either at my workplace or when I was in my high school or college or any social or personal work, silently I remember my Dad and Mom and thank them in my mind. Of-course my Mom and Dad equally made me what I am now, but today I am writing about my Super Hero, so no offences Mom please ! :)
When I am writing all these, I can feel to some extent, though cannot imagine, what pain those children are going through who have lost their Dads at any stage of their lives specially at stages when they are matured enough to realize the importance of parents in their lives. May be God is not so unfair too, may be God gives them a special power, the power from the soul of the deceased to manage even in their absence. But I do not want to imagine that now, do not want to imagine a life without a father. And somewhere it makes me Pray more and more deep to God to keep my Pita safe and in good health for long long years to come. It is very easy for him to say to me to be more independent but I know how much I am still dependent on him for the ultimate mental strength. Any decision I am not able to take for firm and I get a hint of just one “Yes” from him, that’s it! I can confidently go for it. So my Pita is definitely my Super-Hero. Any Dad has to always remain a Super-Hero to his child whatever be the situation. So cheers and lots of power to all Daddies!
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